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I remember when I was in school back in Nigeria when a guy wanted to ask you out it would be a big deal not only for you but for him.
He would write you a letter (this was the mid nineties, so mobile phones were just coming out) which was filled with sappy lines like ‘you are the only sugar in my tea or the only cockroach in my cupboard’ by the way this was always in every guys letter, like a law had been passed which required every love letter to include those lines. If he couldn’t write you a letter he would send a friend to ask you if you wanted to go out with him, you were most likely to reply with “I don’t know, I have to think about it” and if you gave back a negative reply he would still spend days trying to get you to say yes. During this period he would buy you gifts such as assorted biscuits, offer to take you to Mr Biggs and if he was good with his words he would write you a couple of songs.
Fast-forward to the present and now we have guys who wait for women to make the first move. I remember having a conversation with a friend about relationships and mid conversation he says ‘I don’t ask girls out they ask me’, let’s just say I had to cover my mind with the blood of Jesus a couple of times to ignore the thoughts that were forming in my head towards him. I mean talk about confident.
So what happened to romance did the independent woman generation kill it or has it just become as old fashioned as chivalry has become. Where women have decided to go after what they want instead of letting it come to them, where romance has become to exhausting and they just want to get straight on with it, or are they too busy buying properties and working long hours to even realise that it’s not there anymore.
Or maybe romance has evolved with time, where text messages have replaced the old love letter and instead of him asking you to be his girlfriend you wait till his facebook status changes to ‘in a relationship’ and instead of you spending hours with your friends deciding what you are going to wear for your next date you’re in the kitchen wearing an old scarf with an oversized t-shirt and jogging bottoms dragging at your feet cooking dinner because you are already living together.
So I ask you, who killed romance?
Yemi babasanya
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this is well written yemi,i red your previous posts here and i like them a lot,maybe the advancement and growth day by day is killing romance,i think
ReplyDeleteTime and evolution. Get with the program dear.
ReplyDeleteI think Hollywood killed romance.. Hollywood movies depict romantic encounters that most men can't live up to. Most men are brought up to be stern and focused and unemotional not emotional creative romantics. If they don't grow up seeing their parents being romantic, then movies are their instructors. And who can live up to James Bond or George Clooney. I think if partners expect noting, notice the little things, and show enjoyment of the big things.. it would be easier. For instance, I quite often open doors for my girlfriend. She seldom says thank you and I don't believe that she really cares if I hold the door open or not. So why bother?? I used to bring flowers home from time to time for her and would watch as they sit on the counter until she got around to doing something to them. They weren't roses but they were still nice flowers. I can't fly her to Paris for dinner and a walk, but I can do the little things that I don't think matter to her because they are to small.
ReplyDeleteMovies are mostly fiction and dreams of what could be. Ideally men would love to give women the feeling that a near fatal alien encounter would bring to them but we don't know any great acting aliens that would play along.
BTW. Romance is a two way street.. I still remember the first and only rose that was given to me for no reason but to tell me what she thought of me... and it feel good.
Cheers.
Feminism and women wanting to be like more like men. Yep, I said it. There it is. Men don't respect women anymore.
ReplyDeleteIt hasn't evolved lol, it's gone.
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