Saturday, July 9, 2011

Who are your friends?


      Our lives as a whole is revolved around relationships, we crave for someone to talk ,laugh ,play ,and work with.
      
      In essence,we need people,as they say no man is an Island.Though ,there are millions of people in the world ,but there are certain people we hold very dearly to our hearts,we spend most of our time with them, share our fears ,dreams and hopes with them -Our close friends.
There’s no denying the fact that your close friends have a great impact in your life,they influence what you do and believe.When you spend a greater part of your life with a person,you tend to act ,talk,think like the person.As they say ‘’Show me your friend,and I’ll show you who you are or who you soon shall be.

Your friends can either take you closer to your destiny or far from it.Most people you sometimes refer to as friends,are nothing but “parasites” and “vultures’ in your life.They add nothing to your life, they are of no positive influence or benefits in your life…infact ,life was better for you before they showed up in your life….You learnt every bad habits in your life from them.They hardly correct you when you are doing something wrong.They praise you in your presence,but at your back,they say terrible things about you.

On the hand,some people are what I would call ‘’blessings’’ in a person’s life.These set of friends give more than they take from you, they enrich your life and push you up when you can’t go on by yourself,they will be generous with praises at your success and eager with encouragement at your struggles.They will not patronize you to make you feel good all the time,but they will tell you the truth and sometimes scold you real hard and help you get better for a lifetime.

When I watched some heroic movies like’’ Harry Potter,Legend of the Seeker’’ and others.The heroes in these movies are nothing without their close pals and friends.These friends propelled them to greatness.Their friends nutured ,helped, took them to their respective destinies.Most great people are ordinary people with extraordinary friends.

Sometimes,you have to leave behind people that have no positive influence in your life,people that are not willing to climb the mountain with you,people that don’t share your goals ,visions with you,people that you have nothing in common with.The truth is that there are some people you just have to love from a distance.

When we have the wrong people as friends,we invite chaos and confusions into our lives,and most importantly,the longer they remain in our lives,the longer we remain far from our destines.The reason why some people remain on the same spot for years is because of the friends they keep,or people they ignorantly welcomed into their lives.For every person that comes into your life,there’s a reward, an impact ,a change in your life. Choose your friends,don’t let them choose you.!!

It’s great to welcome people into your lives,but don’t set the bar or standard so low to people who will do more harm than good in your lives.Instead,surround yourself with positive people,that you share the same goals,values,with …those that will propel you faster to your destiny.Great relationships are hard to come by,but are very rewarding.I guess you should be willing to ask yourself “ my close friends are they parasites or blessings?’’
Readers,what do you think?Do you agree or disagree with me that friends have an influence in a person’s life ? Let’s discuss!!!!!!!!!!!!

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3 comments:

  1. Nice article here Sis..u ve said it all truth about some friends a blessing and another a parasite...well said.Some friends walk into our lives for particular reasons either positive or otherwise.some are meant to leave after fulfilling their purpose which some are aware of blessing our live and some not aware of how much they ve realy impacted our lives.The same applicable to friends that are parasites,some are aware they are and some not aware,some leave as soon as they get what they want while some want to remain.We have the right to our choices of suppressing the needed to be suppressed and nurturing the needed to be nurtured because the TWO of them ve got lessons to be learnt.

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  2. I LOVE THIS.WELL WRITTEN.RELATIONSHIPS ARE  TRULY WHAT MAKES OR MAR US EXPECIALLY IN THIS AGE WE ARE IN.U USUALLY CANNOT GROW BEYOUND UR RELATIONSHIPS.THANK U FOR REMAINDING US OF THIS SALIENT BUT VERY IMPORTANT TRUTH.

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  3. we should be careful of friends we keep , a very close  friend has gone at my back to seduce my guy before , very good article here 

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